Forum Dynamics and personality clashes.

[Bella Fortuna]

(I'm a lot more hyper in RL, though.)

Got that right!

[Trolldor]

I usually laugh when people get angry.
The only times I get emotional on t3h internets are when real life is fucking with my head.

[The Curious Squid]

(I'm a lot more hyper in RL, though.)

Got that right!

Understatement of the century.

I'd say my on-line persona and RL one are close but I think I am better at socialising in RL, I don't feel that my personality comes through that well on-line and I probably get viewed as boring by a lot of people (especially when people who have met me say I'm "nice" which translates as dull).

I may be fooling myself but I actually think I'm good getting peoples spirits up in person. I'd say CJ is definitely the same too. On here I pictured him as a young, quite, shy guy but he can get a room full of people laughing with his anecdotes easily.

[Beelzebub2]

(I'm a lot more hyper in RL, though.)

Got that right!

Understatement of the century.

I'd say my on-line persona and RL one are close but I think I am better at socialising in RL, I don't feel that my personality comes through that well on-line and I probably get viewed as boring by a lot of people (especially when people who have met me say I'm "nice" which translates as dull).

That's probably one of the silliest things I have read this week.

[The Curious Squid]

(I'm a lot more hyper in RL, though.)

Got that right!

Understatement of the century.

I'd say my on-line persona and RL one are close but I think I am better at socialising in RL, I don't feel that my personality comes through that well on-line and I probably get viewed as boring by a lot of people (especially when people who have met me say I'm "nice" which translates as dull).

That's probably one of the silliest things I have read this week.

Have you read Exi's posts about him thinking he's sexy?

[Chinaski]

Guys, cut the banter to a minimum maybe? 'Tis a "serious" forum.

[The Curious Squid]

Sorry

Getting back on topic,

I even try to drop any grudges with the people who I don't get on well with on here, I find that letting go of past grievances can sometimes be managed in as little as a single PM and I'd rather sort things out than get wound up.

[Beelzebub2]

(I'm a lot more hyper in RL, though.)

Got that right!

Understatement of the century.

I'd say my on-line persona and RL one are close but I think I am better at socialising in RL, I don't feel that my personality comes through that well on-line and I probably get viewed as boring by a lot of people (especially when people who have met me say I'm "nice" which translates as dull).

That's probably one of the silliest things I have read this week.

Have you read Exi's posts about him thinking he's sexy?

Oh, but I'm used to that. That underlined sentence exceeds in silliness everything Exi has written this week.

[Beelzebub2]

Guys, cut the banter to a minimum maybe? 'Tis a "serious" forum.

Uups - I just read this.

No more, I'm sorry.

[Transgirlofnofaith]

Well, personally I come off as more extroverted than I am in real life. I also don't like most people, and happen to think that most people aren't that smart, whether you agree or not, and are not aware enough of either themselves or the world to be interesting. So I play my cards pretty close to my chest. I suppose this makes it harder for me to meet new people, so maybe I should join mensa or something. So I am much more likely to share my opinions, ideas, etc. online because seeing words on a screen is somewhat different than talking to someone across the table from me. There seems to be a minor mental disconnect, like the willful suspension of disbelief when it comes to films. I know that you are all humans sitting behind computers or holding cell phones, and it seems like in a different part of my brain, I think of you as disembodied minds. Weird. Y'know, it kind of reminds me of what Andy Thompson said in his speech at AA 09. http://www.richarddawkins.net/article,3 ... dy-Thomson The point I was coming to is that the anonymity thing allows me to feel much easier about sharing with others than I would otherwise. And this goes doubly so when it comes to the more, shall we say, intense parts of my personality. These I sometimes use for humour, and that sure went well. They would only normally be expressed in real life when I got really pissed or was confronted by some sort of egregious stupidity.

[The Curious Squid]

Well, personally I come off as more extroverted than I am in real life. I also don't like most people, and happen to think that most people aren't that smart, whether you agree or not, and are not aware enough of either themselves or the world to be interesting.

I know exactly what you mean here (I think) whenever I'm walking around the city or on the bus, whatever, I find myself doing a lot of people watching. Most people do live their lives in an ignorant haze where they just seem to plod along unaware of themselves or their surroundings and so I do see a lot of them as pointless. Every now and then though, you do see someone who looks like they're actually thinking. I like it when I spot someone like that.

Something I've come to think is that the people who are drawn in to RDF and by extension here, are the people who have spent a lot of time merely being introspective and as a result they are interesting for it. I don't want to do any smug, elitist stuff like linking atheism with intelligence but if you were to take a cross section of the IQs of our membership and compare it to the general public I wouldn't be surprised if there is a noticeable difference in our favour. This might also account for why there are as many conflicting personalities, whenever so many strong willed people are jammed together in the one place there are always going to be confrontations.

Looking back at the OP, I think this shows that not everyone does have to be nice and like each other here, in fact, it seems that most of us have one or two people who we'd rather see the back of.

[Transgirlofnofaith]

Well, personally I come off as more extroverted than I am in real life. I also don't like most people, and happen to think that most people aren't that smart, whether you agree or not, and are not aware enough of either themselves or the world to be interesting.

I know exactly what you mean here (I think) whenever I'm walking around the city or on the bus, whatever, I find myself doing a lot of people watching. Most people do live their lives in an ignorant haze where they just seem to plod along unaware of themselves or their surroundings and so I do see a lot of them as pointless. Every now and then though, you do see someone who looks like they're actually thinking. I like it when I spot someone like that.

I know exactly what you mean. Yay for smart people!

Something I've come to think is that the people who are drawn in to RDF and by extension here, are the people who have spent a lot of time merely being introspective and as a result they are interesting for it. I don't want to do any smug, elitist stuff like linking atheism with intelligence but if you were to take a cross section of the IQs of our membership and compare it to the general public I wouldn't be surprised if there is a noticeable difference in our favour. This might also account for why there are as many conflicting personalities, whenever so many strong willed people are jammed together in the one place there are always going to be confrontations.

Very true. Smart people have very deep and developed opinions sometimes, and because they hold them so strongly, can seem like really arrogant bastards, like a crow that sits on top of a tree and mouths off to everyone he can see. I also think that the membership has been self-selected somewhat to contain basically the smartest and funniest people, and as a result, we don't seem to have as many of the wallflower types as on Rd.net.

[The Curious Squid]

Well, personally I come off as more extroverted than I am in real life. I also don't like most people, and happen to think that most people aren't that smart, whether you agree or not, and are not aware enough of either themselves or the world to be interesting.

I know exactly what you mean here (I think) whenever I'm walking around the city or on the bus, whatever, I find myself doing a lot of people watching. Most people do live their lives in an ignorant haze where they just seem to plod along unaware of themselves or their surroundings and so I do see a lot of them as pointless. Every now and then though, you do see someone who looks like they're actually thinking. I like it when I spot someone like that.

I know exactly what you mean. Yay for smart people!

Something I've come to think is that the people who are drawn in to RDF and by extension here, are the people who have spent a lot of time merely being introspective and as a result they are interesting for it. I don't want to do any smug, elitist stuff like linking atheism with intelligence but if you were to take a cross section of the IQs of our membership and compare it to the general public I wouldn't be surprised if there is a noticeable difference in our favour. This might also account for why there are as many conflicting personalities, whenever so many strong willed people are jammed together in the one place there are always going to be confrontations.

Very true. Smart people have very deep and developed opinions sometimes, and because they hold them so strongly, can seem like really arrogant bastards, like a crow that sits on top of a tree and mouths off to everyone he can see. I also think that the membership has been self-selected somewhat to contain basically the smartest and funniest people, and as a result, we don't seem to have as many of the wallflower types as on Rd.net.

I would say that RD.net has more of a constriction on the emphasis of intelligence than this place. Over there it does feel like you have to be intelligent all the time and make an effort with posts or you'll be pounced upon and shamed as an idiot. That's why I have difficulty posting regularly on RDF, too many people try and give of the perception of intelligence to try and fit in but they just end up sounding like cunts. There are a lot of genuinely smart people there though and that's why I think it is a vital resource in general, real time peer review

[AshtonBlack]

There is a statistical correlation (though with other factors, I'm sure) between intelligence (as a definition I'm including emotional intelligence too) and a lack of belief in god or gods. But like all things with reference to people, it's a shifted bell curve, so we can expect clever theists and stupid atheists as well. (I will dig out the study, if required.)

[The Curious Squid]

There is a statistical correlation (though with other factors, I'm sure) between intelligence (as a definition I'm including emotional intelligence too) and a lack of belief in god or gods. But like all things with reference to people, it's a shifted bell curve, so we can expect clever theists and stupid atheists as well. (I will dig out the study, if required.)

I've met enough clever theists and stupid atheists to know that what you're saying is right, my point was more that the atheists who find their way onto RDF are more than likely going to be intelligent because they wouldn't be there if they hadn't thought it through.