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by lordpasternack » Thu Jan 27, 2011 3:52 am
Last I heard, women weren't actually as far behind when it came to admitting to having had extramarital sex at least once. I do suspect men may win on the question of number of flings on the side, and frequency of friskiness, though. But I shall await further evidence…
As to your question of kind of exceptional motivations - well they obviously factor. I had sex with one married man who said he loved his wife, but felt she was a bit sexually uptight, insecure and conservative. I shagged another who quite openly didn't love his wife a jot, and was staying with her for purely pragmatic reasons. Had at least one married but separated… and a few who just liked a bit on the side, or apparently felt no compulsion to keep it in their trousers as it were.
I also was sort-of surreptitious myself back when I was in a relationship, near the end, when I saw other opportunities arise. In the particular cases, he did find out before the 'events' took place, and I didn't deny them at that stage, and they did then happen, of course… It was an odd relationship, heading towards its end, and it was one of the things that brought us to amicably calling it a day. Well, we did do a brief reprise at the start of 2010 which was quickly stubbed out following a certain life choice I made at that point, but I shan't go on…
I mean, be honest, has there ever been a point in even the most intense and glorious of your sexual/romantic relationships where you've ceased being sexually attracted to, occasionally sexually aroused by, and had even the most fleeting sexual thoughts about persons other than your main sexual/romantic partner? Sometimes the motivation to play.away needs to be no more than simply yielding to that 'temptation'…