Ian wrote:I don't have much contact with religion in my life, so I seldom have cause to get myself angry about confronting it. So my answer is no. I'm anti-theistic, but I don't go looking for an argument or advertising my atheism to friends and family. I like to avoid confrontation, though I'll happily debate my stance until the cows come home if I'm asked about it. On Facebook, I almost never mention anything about religion (my information page says "Freethinking" for religious views, and that's it). I just don't want to bother.
Most of my family doesn't discuss religion either, with the exception of my aunt Judi in Long Island. In the last ten years or so decades she's become absolutely brainwashed, and posts a scripture passage as her Facebook status every day. I ignore it; to be honest, she's not the brightest person and doesn't have the most ideal life, so if it's a crutch for her then I say so be it. She's never tried to point out the evil of my ways, although as per the first paragraph she may not be fully aware of my views on the subject. But she'll be visiting here for a day in July... I'll let you know if any fireworks happen.
I think you raise an excellent point here. Peoples beliefs may be irrational and unreasonable, but they can also be quite integral to somebodys identity, and serve valuable social purposes as well as a sense of belonging and support in many communities.
We shouldn't have to compromise our ideas or beliefs, or even self censor - but I think it helps a lot, before reacting in anger, to ask what the ideal outcome of such a confrontation is, and whether going through the exercise is likely to help achieve it. Atheists may take a certain delight in tearing down religious unreason, but winning people over requires more than just the ability to rationally destroy their arguments, which is why so many degenerate into the religious person taking shelter in the unreason of faith, and refusing to abandon it.
I imagine I'd have a hard time keeping my cool if I felt my child, or a close friend was being indoctrinated, but thankfully that has never happened to me. I get mad in a very generalised way when I see politicians and priests whipping up religious frenzy to justify atrocities and enrage populations. Stare too long into the abyss though, and the abyss in turn will stare into you.