If we liberate men’s sexuality the war against women can end

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http://www.newstatesman.com/politics/20 ... en-can-end

If we liberate men’s sexuality, the war against women can end
Margaret Corvid

When I became a professional dominatrix after years in the kink scene, I expected my kinky work to involve lots of spanking, whipping and bondage. And, to my delight, it has. But in the majority of my sessions, I am creating a space for men to explore areas of their sexual lives that society feels are unmanly; they come to me to be penetrated, to be used, to serve, to submit, to worship, to be taken. A client might have any or all of a bewildering array of fetishes, but they mostly come to me to experience something well outside the very narrow confines of what society says that it means to be a man.

When a man enters my secret room, he steps into another world, where the taboos, rules and expectations of the outside world are lifted, or bent to serve our mutual pleasure. To watch a man’s face change as he realises this, and is released from the tension of hiding his deviant fantasies – to watch him as he feels finally understood – is one of my greatest joys in life. But our shared world ends at my door. When I tell a man to strip his clothes off, I am also taking the weight of social expectations from him; and when our time together is finished, he puts his clothes on, piece by piece, and takes that weight onto his shoulders again.

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[JimC]

"Sorry, can't come to the phone at the moment, I'm a little tied up"

[pErvinalia]

I have zero desire to be penetrated, whipped, beaten, bitten, used, abused. I understand homosexuality more than I understand people who want to be abused during sex. Frankly, it's fucking weird.