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Hot People Are Stressful

Post by Sean Hayden » Thu Oct 10, 2019 3:07 pm

A couple of weeks later, the hot doctor cut out my rotting tonsils. When he paid me a surprise visit in the recovery room, I was consumed again by the irrational belief that people at the far end of the physical-beauty bell curve should at least give the rest of us some time to compose ourselves before we have to deal with them. Instead, we’re left to walk up to a store counter, interact with someone we find arrestingly gorgeous, and pretend that nothing has happened.

I’ve chafed under this onerous expectation periodically in the intervening 10 years: There was another hot doctor, to whom I had described a rash in detail over the phone, as well as a hot mover and the occasional hot delivery guy. Every time, it was the same small sense of panic, embarrassment, and indignation. Aren’t people supposed to enjoy beauty? As it turns out, this isn’t just me being a colossal weirdo, at least according to neuroscience. Even if they don’t mean any harm, hot people can be very, very stressful.
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The problem starts with brain chemistry. “When you see an attractive person, the left ventral tegmental area of the brain becomes active and will pump out dopamine,” says Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist who studies attraction at the Kinsey Institute. “Dopamine is a stimulant to the brain, so some people might react with surprise or awkwardness.” That feeling is the weak-kneed giddiness that very attractive people can inspire, which can leave you fumbling for words and feeling off balance, even though a dopamine rush is a fundamentally pleasurable experience.

Based on Fisher’s research, which used fMRI scans to observe the brain lighting up in response to stimuli, the left ventral tegmental area (commonly referred to as the left VTA) is responsible for pleasurable reactions to beauty. Meanwhile, the right VTA provides the dopamine that fuels romantic love; the two responses are similar but neurologically distinct, which means that what people feel when they see a random pretty face isn’t necessarily a desire for romance or even sex. “The same thing probably happens when you look at a good painting,” says Fisher. “It can pump out the dopamine and perhaps make you slightly giddy.”

The left VTA appraises and appreciates what you see, but lighting up that part of the brain doesn’t necessarily make you want to interact with the person whose appearance gives you pleasure, which is why most people don’t try to ask out every hot person they see. The stress I felt wasn’t the same as a fear of rejection; my hot surgeon wasn’t even my type. Instead, I panicked because of a key difference between gazing at a painting and a hottie: A painting doesn’t judge you back.

That’s where a second, potentially more nefarious brain chemical comes in: cortisol. That’s the stress hormone that gets blamed for everything from weight gain to road rage, and Fisher thinks a cortisol spike is probably what I experienced when surprised by my extraordinarily attractive doctor. “Some people may see someone beautiful and feel very inadequate. Then cortisol would go up,” she says. A spike in the hormone can trigger a fight-or-flight response, which could be why my brain hurtled toward intense irritation and embarrassment at beautiful strangers in situations where I was at a disadvantage: when I was sick, in the middle of moving, or watching The Real Housewives of Atlanta inside my own apartment.
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Post by NineBerry » Thu Oct 10, 2019 3:08 pm

I can confirm

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Post by laklak » Thu Oct 10, 2019 5:25 pm

Mrs. Lak is in the beginning stages of "The Change", which is apparently like orbiting the sun and randomly dipping into the chromosphere. I can testify that at those times her company can, in fact, be stressful.
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Post by Tero » Thu Oct 10, 2019 6:51 pm

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Post by JimC » Thu Oct 10, 2019 10:11 pm

Cool topic, Sean... :tea:
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Post by Brian Peacock » Fri Oct 11, 2019 1:51 am

Does this explain why people are so annoyed and frustrated around me?
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Post by Sean Hayden » Fri Oct 11, 2019 4:16 pm

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Post by Tero » Fri Oct 11, 2019 6:39 pm

Why do only hipsters get gluten allergy?
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Post by Rum » Fri Oct 11, 2019 7:11 pm

A few times in my life - maybe not even half a dozen, I’ve walked into a room and been absolutely riveted by a woman, to the point where I’ve had to use all my willpower not to stare. The effect is visceral as well as emotional. I’ve come close to embarrassing myself with my ogling.

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Post by AvtomatKalashnikova » Fri Oct 11, 2019 8:16 pm

Is true, am very stress full

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Post by Sean Hayden » Fri Oct 11, 2019 8:40 pm

Tero wrote:
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Why do only hipsters get gluten allergy?
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Not funny at all. "get to have sex with someone for the rest of your life"??? Lil girl you have no concept of reality if you believe that describes a long term marriage. "Socks by the toaster"??? This check looks wasted off her ass and her I.Q.. must be around 75!
This is retarded lol. Marriage is a complete shit deal for men. That's why myself and so many others don't even consider that shit. The modern woman is incompatible with men. I enjoy a very good living, I work (sort of) from home and have maximum free time. Now why the fuck would I squander a perfect life, with complete freedom, financially and time, to listen to someone bitch and moan for no fucking reason all day. To make me compromise on everything I do until I die. Lmao. Yea no thanks. You're way off the mark lady.
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