Loss

[Rum]

Say something about loss.

I have been posting a lot to the Calvin and Hobbs thread and it occurred to me tonight, which is why the most recent post is there, that much of it is about loss and that is why it is so often so touching.

Life changes all the time. We lose stuff - people and relationships as well as 'things' and it is sad.

Say something about loss.

[Xamonas Chegwé]

I had something really poignant to say...


... but I lost it.


(Sorry.)

[Drewish]

The event that really drove me to question my faith openly and honestly was the suicide of a good friend. There are much better times to stop believing in an afterlife than right when it means accepting that you'll never get the chance to say you're sorry.

[Bella Fortuna]

I often think about what has been lost in having things in life not happen until the time they do.

If only I had met you years before...

It's easy to get saddened by those thoughts... but then, if you had met that person earlier than you did, you wouldn't have been the same you, and they not the same them, and things would never have been as utterly, bittersweetly perfect as they are. I guess there's always a trade-off in life between what one loses and what one finds.

[The Dawktor]

My most recent loss has been the end of a relationship- the loss (for me) is the regret of what could have continued and of what can never happen in the future. Selfish- I know- but I feel cheated out of that which was and could have been- so I suppose loss= regret with a twist of resentment.

[Gawdzilla Sama]

I've lost many friends and two wives. It's hard to deal with, but if you want a life you have to move on.

[Animavore]

I tend to be very in Buddhist in my thinking when I lose someone. I usually just accept it as a fact of nature so my mourning period may not last much further than the wake. I remember when my Grand dad died me and my cousin were joking and laughing at the wake and just talking about things in the past. The next day I just went back to work and continued my life. Still think of him but, I would never allow myself to lose my mind over something like that (and I do know people who can't seem to accept loss. Recently I was talking to a guy in the pub and he started weeping for his mother. When he went to the toilet I asked his mate when she died thinking it was recent and it turned out it was 12 years ago. I couldn't believe this and seriously thought little of him after that. What a baby. Funnily enough a lot of people of this kind are soppy, crying twats. ie. Type of people that have done time in The Joy for any list of offences. This guy was in for armed robbery in his early 20's).

[VonMushroom]

I kind of don't really own anything so it's kinda difficult to lose it.

On the other hand I've borrowed helluvalot of different stuff from people, banks and the world in general. Lucky me and thanks for that part!

In the very end I think I won't be missing any of it. Sooo... I guess I'll just have to be happy with what's going on here right now and not worry too much about any kind of losses.

[Pappa]

I tend to be very in Buddhist in my thinking when I lose someone. I usually just accept it as a fact of nature so my mourning period may not last much further than the wake. I remember when my Grand dad died me and my cousin were joking and laughing at the wake and just talking about things in the past. The next day I just went back to work and continued my life. Still think of him but, I would never allow myself to lose my mind over something like that (and I do know people who can't seem to accept loss. Recently I was talking to a guy in the pub and he started weeping for his mother. When he went to the toilet I asked his mate when she died thinking it was recent and it turned out it was 12 years ago. I couldn't believe this and seriously thought little of him after that. What a baby. Funnily enough a lot of people of this kind are soppy, crying twats. ie. Type of people that have done time in The Joy for any list of offences. This guy was in for armed robbery in his early 20's).

That's almost exactly the same as me. I've always dealt with it and moved on pretty quickly. Yeah, I miss my mum and I grieved when she died, but crying's not going to bring her back now. I know people deal with stuff in different ways, but I do have a lot of trouble understanding why some people seem to dwell on it for years after, literally ruining their lives when they could be happy instead. I just remember the good stuff about the person and cherish the memories I have of them. Laughing and joking at wakes is the way it should be.

[M]

Things you lose that make you sad:
Loved ones, pets, trust, your dignity or self respect, your teeth, your hair, your car keys, your mobile phone, your wallet, control (self or remote), the will, your way, your marbles.

Things you lose that make you happy:
Pounds/kilos.

[Animavore]

Things you lose that make you happy:
Pounds/kilos.

Not if you're a man they don't (well, unless you were a fat man I guess).

[Beelzebub2]

You lose something - you gain somewhere else.

It's a constant play of dualities - mostly based on our own making. Universe plays dice indeed. Fortune is blind.