Seth wrote:Schneibster wrote:maiforpeace wrote:Schneibster wrote:maiforpeace wrote:Schneibster...why the name calling and the duh's?
Because he was a dick. And it's not namecalling. Not to mention it's not very bright to taunt someone until they put you on ignore and then get all whiny because you're on ignore.
Calling someone a dick, whether you think it's true or not, is name calling.
Not if they're being a dick. They can stop anytime and then I won't call them a dick anymore. And that's because they won't be one anymore. Simple as that.
Pot, kettle, black.
I can see perfectly well when someone's deliberately being a dick, and I have no hesitation in calling them out for it.
And I can see perfectly well when someone's being a pompous ass, and I have no hesitation in calling them out for it. Seems we're even.
I'm a dick myself, sometimes,
"Sometimes?"
and calling someone a dick is, after all, being a dick, even if they are being a dick. I reserve the right to be a dick sometimes but don't do it to people who aren't being dicks themselves.
Sure you do, because your dick detector is broken.
My tendency is to let folks determine how I treat them; if they don't like it, they need to change what they've determined to present to me.
Hm, I've said the same thing myself.
I don't see a lot of point in being nice to someone who's being a dick to me,
And again, a point of congruency and synchronicity.
and I have to point out that I've had a lot more success pointing out they're being a dick than being nice.
In other words, you've been far more successful at being a dick than being nice. I agree.
maiforpeace wrote:On a few occasions you've mentioned you've been around for a while...back in your day (which I'm assuming is close to my day since I'm 54) I know that calling someone a dick would be name calling...
Nope. Not in my circle, anyway. You called someone a dick because they were being a dick. "Don't be a dick," for example. Some of them took notice and stopped being dicks; others were too stupid, so we just marked them down as permanent dicks and avoided them.
Or, as is more likely, the possibility exists that they were using your own paradigm against you because you were being a dick, but were being too much of a pompous ass to recognize it.
maiforpeace wrote:So, just a personal and polite request, it would be much more of a pleasure for me to read your posts without your brand of honesty, which is a little embarrassing and uncomfortable for me. That's totally my problem, I know, but I'm just askin', please?
We'll see. I have a real attachment to honesty. It's a determining factor in my makeup. I consider it far more important than politeness. Also, there's the fact that you're asking me to be nice when someone's being a dick to me; you could always go ask them not to be a dick first, and then I wouldn't tell them they were being a dick anymore.
You might also find that if you refrain from being a dick and a pompous ass, you won't have that sort of problem in the first place.
The potential gains are much larger, you see; two people stop being dicks instead of one. So, simple question: why bug me about it when someone else started it? Try asking them not to be a dick before you start asking me to be dishonest, please.
Of course, this relies on the false notion that "someone else started it." Actually, YOU started it.